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See WHO in September, Oprah? (C) Lauralyn Bellamy


See Who in September, Oprah?©

By Lauralyn Bellamy, MA, MDIV, cert.  Dream Coach(R) & DC Group Leader



Oprah Winfrey, July 2008 issue, O, The Oprah Magazine,What I Know For Sure:”

I know for sure that I am not [sic] my body. I feel more connected to consciousness, or soul, or inner spirit – whatever you choose to name the formless being that is the essence of who we are. I think of all the years I’ve wasted hating myself fat, wanting myself thin…Worrying when I wasn’t dieting, then eating everything I wanted until the next diet…

“But I’ve given up scale-watching — letting a number determine how I see myself and whether I’m worthy of a good day…You’re not your body, and for sure you’re not your body image.

“That’s a free at last kind of recognition. No more wasted time.”



Oprah Winfrey, September 2008 issue, O, The Oprah Magazine, “What I Know For Sure:”


“’LEADERSHIP IS THE KEY TO EVERYTHING.’…Recently, though, I found myself overwhelmed by a lack of leadership in almost every area of my life… I’ve been on an international search for a new Head of [my] School [in South Africa], while also searching for a CEO and President for my new TV network, ‘OWN’ – while also doing two show a day, banking radio shows to air in the future, trying to read very page in this magazine before it goes to print, having preshow meetings with producers, dealing with the business of all the businesses and hearing from Gayle: ‘Your “What I Know for Sure” column is waaay overdue. You’re holding up the process!’

“I had a LOL moment when I was told that with everything else I have going on, I was supposed to write a column about being overwhelmed.

“How about this: I AM OVERWHELMED! …Flying back and forth from Africa to Chicago to California to New York. Doing. Doing. Doing.

“So I stopped. Everything. For one day…I stopped doing in order to return to the being of myself.”  (emphasis added)



How does a person who is not her body and in a “crisis in leadership,” solve this problem? Oprah set aside a single day to “do nothing.” But how does a “formless being” that is “more connected to consciousness or soul, or inner spirit” actually do nothing? The rest of the column is Oprah’s description of that one, idyllic day.


Turns out, she was NOT doing "nothing;" rather, she was actively allowing her body “free time” to play. She immersed herself in the experience of her physical senses:

    • “I watched sunlight filter between the branches…”
    • “I listened to the birds…”
    • “I took a few deep breaths…”
    • “I said, ’Thank you’ out loud…” (vocalizing and listening)
    • “I filled a bowl with lemon sorbet and fresh strawberries…” (sight and smell)
    • “I savored every spoonful…”
    • “I went for a run with my dogs…”
    • “I sat in a tub of bubbles until I got crinkly…”
    • “I read myself to sleep with Mary Oliver* poems…” 

*Mary Oliver observes the world of nature with awe and wonder!


In other words, to treat the mental state of “being overwhelmed,” Oprah had to immerse herself in the world experienced through her body! She had to re-member and re-collect her physical senses, exercise her physical body, allow her imagination to wander through the sensual natural world painted with poetry.


Under these pleasurable physical conditions, she was also able to revive her spiritual practices and worship!

·         “I pulled out my gratitude journal, in which I’d been too tired to write even a sentence for months…”

·         “I let those trees remind me how to be: still…”

·         “I wrote in my journal: ‘I am grateful for my breath and the recognition that I am here, alive. Breathing…’

·         “I prayed. I meditated. I napped. I filled three more pages with praise and gratitude for all that’s gone right… I watched the sun move across the sky…”


What did Oprah learn about her Self from the day she stopped everything? She ends her September column with news:

The next day I found the new Head of School. Two days later, a president for OWN.

I no longer have a crisis in leadership. I know for sure that what’s best for me is already on its way.


Who will show up in Oprah’s October column? 


My hope is she will have noticed that it was only when she paid attention to and exercised all her physical senses that her spiritual practices of prayer, meditation, and thanksgiving were revived.


My hope is she will recognize that her physically punishing work schedule was contributing to the “confusion…crisis and chaos” that is the psychological state of being “OVERWHELMED!”


My hope is that she will take steps to personally work with some of the talented people who regularly write for her magazine to expand her experience of Self to integrate, “the formless being that is the essence of who we are” with her unique physical body – as much a manifestation of Self as her Soul!


It wasn’t her body that fixated on the scale, ate mindlessly to reduce the intolerable anxiety and exhaustion overwhelming her, and bears the extra pounds she now carries. It was her spirit that had gotten detached from her body and fallen victim to the ideas generated by an unchallenged ego on a power rampage.


Oprah probably still subscribes to the idea that in order to enjoy physical health, we need to “listen to our bodies.”  I experience that as listening to a part of who I Am. But if “you’re not your body,” whom are you listening to when your body complains? See WHO in September, Oprah?




 My friend, Monica, is an inspiration to all who meet her.
She takes transformation literally, having shed hundreds of pounds!!!
Just now, "out of the blue," she sent me these words – which I found so uplifting I asked her for the author’s name and – well – read on!
Life isn’t waiting for the storm to pass,
it’s about learning to dance in the rain.
So…let’s dance!
–   Monica Ganz, Ph.D., author, speaker, and so much more!
Make sure to visit her website: www.makeitalifestyle.com  

“Shower the One You Love with Love”

   I believe we’re all enmeshed in the interdependent web of energy that animates all there is.  

So, when my cherished spice, Jim, gets wheeled into surgery tomorrow late morning, I know that if I’ve let folks know that their prayers, meditations, healing energy, loving thoughts for Jim will be gratefully received between 11:00AM – 3:00PM Eastern, he will rest in your loving energy!

And I’ll catch whatever spillover  to remain centered in the divine "Peace that passes all understanding!"

Will keep you posted.

Lovingly sent,



Holidays Haunted by Ghosts of Failed Diets, Relationships, Work?

Haunted by the Ghosts of Christmas’ Past?©

By Lauralyn Bellamy, MA, MDIV



If the mere thought of the "Season to be Merry" fills you less with "fa-la-la-la-lah" and more  BAH! HUMBUG!” and a severe case of the munchies, well…

Be not afraid! I bring you glad tidings of great hope. Embody Success!© goes directly to the self-sabotage machinery and teaches folks just like you how to turn it off so you’ll be free to create the life of your dreams!

Imagine moving through the weeks of holiday shopping, partying, planning, greeting card-sending, and home decorating with a profound sense of centered spirituality, emotional equanimity and healthy energy!

Learn how
Embody Success!© can teach you how to replace self-sabotage with success in the current issue of OBSTACLE 2020 magazine, available online at:


Then message me < Lauralyn@embodysuccess.net  > with the

               <Subject: Healthy Holiday Package  >

so we can schedule your complimentary consult  to make your holiday season worth celebrating!



Can you hear me now?

 If you were "lost in thought," what would be the best way
for me to get your immediate and receptive attention?
I mean, I don’t want you leaping for my throat!
For example, if I am "off in my own little world"
(as an exhaustive list of long-suffering teachers can attest)
you can wave your arms at me,  jump up and down,
clear your throat and even toss off a verbal cue,
("Will the daydreamer in the 3rd row, 5th desk care to
answer?) to no avail. I’m not so sure even blinking the lights
would get my attention.
But if you were to forcefully call out my name – LAURALYN!
in a nanosecond you’d have my total attention.
It may take an additional second to know where I am;
but I’ll instantly be engaged in waiting for your next
Some of us learn most effectively in that narrow-focused
intensity of attention – whether we’re one-on-one with a teacher,
coach or mentor; or alone with a book, a website, in a lab,
off in our  workroom, studio, practice room.
For us, moments of inspiration happen with the swift, sudden precision
of a laser knife slicing through a tangle of confusion. Place us in an
environment that encourages us to "shut out" all the background noise
and give us a teacher who is equally gifted at bringing that level of focus
and intensity to our session time and the opportunities for life-changing
inspirations cascade down like mana from heaven!
This mode of coaching I classify as: INTENSIFIED
Others are enthralled with a gifted lecturer who holds their audience in rapt attention.
They are excited to feel part of the audience/class and come to life
when the group is encouraged to ask questions and discuss things.
They assign significance or value to an idea or person when they
hear others voice it; or when the group takes an idea or problem
and spends time engaged in brainstorming it collectively. They are
energized when the class "comes to life."
Exposure to this collective energy is their catalyst for inspiration.
They will lose their attention, however, if the teacher focuses on a single student.
If the teacher appears to them to be tuning out the class,
they will tune out the teacher! What’s the best way to bring these folks
back into learning mode? Say or do something that provokes a class response
ideally, cracking a joke that causes hearty laughter will immediately yank
our group-oriented daydreamer back into the classroom. But it could also be
the announcement of a pop quiz that produces an immediate outburst
of groaning and protests.
Small group coaching is the optimal coaching mode for such persons.
Here energy is AMPLIFIED by the focused discussions of 4-6 participants.
Under the direction of a teacher/coach gifted at "reading" her
group’s energy and attention collectively and individually, their ability
to carefully listen to one another is nurtured. Ideally, the coach will
"conduct" the discussion as if it is a piece of chamber music and each
musician is committed to producing a harmonious musical conversation.
Members are rewarded for their heightened ability to listen as they
experience progressively more and more useful insights and inspirations
triggered by what they’ve heard others say. They come to realize that
another’s wisdom or thought could be the switch that turns on their
channel for receiving an insight that illuminates the nature of an obstacle,
the mechanics of a solution, or a life-changing inspiration!
Before I announce a BREAKTHROUGH in delivering EMBODY SUCCESS!
Coaching, I’ll return to my original question:
 If you were "lost in thought," what would be the best way
for me to get your immediate and receptive attention?
Your answer will tell you whether you would thrive in experiencing my powerful
in the INTENSIFIED mode of individual coaching; or,
the brand new AMPLIFIED mode of small group coaching!
For the 1st time ever, I am offering a few small groups tailored to
one’s TIME ZONE and ISSUE .
To learn more, email me now: lauralyn@embodysuccess.net
as group size is strictly limited!
You will enjoy the holiday season vaccinated against self-sabotage as you master
the ability to EMBODY SUCCESS!
What have you got to lose?
What are you waiting for?
You don’t have all the time in the world;
what you do have is  enough time to
love your life!

A Psychiatrist Uses This Healing Prayer – on himself!!

The inspiring story about how "The Secret"’s Joe Vitale heard about, tracked down and learned from this remarkable doctor is captured in his just-released www.amazon.com bestseller: ZERO LIMITS.
Though the prayer is from a Hawaain kahuna, its structure is classic to Judaism and Christianity. One need not be a theist to receive the blessings of this spiritual practice.
Usher your attention into the Presence of the Holy/Source of Life/God;
breathe deeply, slowly, relaxing yourself.
Pause to breathe fully between each thought.
You can use it to heal a particular situation, condition or relationship by focusing on YOUR experience of the named factor.
I love you!
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you!


So I’m one of those folks who doesn’t believe there can ever  be too much information! But, OK, ya gotta know what’s usable and what’s ignorable. Well, if you or someone you care about is struggling with obesity, here’s a new source of useful, practical information:
       tah dah!  www.obesityandme.com 
Its "mother" is the nationally reknowned champion of the cause and formerly morbidly obese sufferer,
        MONICA GANZ, Ph.D.
Give it a click, you won’t regret it. I mean, (gotta say it!) Whaddaya hafta looze?